No two lives are ever alike because every single day is asymmetrically filled with decisions, experiences, and innumerable moments that shape us into what we are. It's so very easy to pick up a mental "could have" and "should have" list as one meanders through life—as a litany comes haunting thoughts of what might have been or oftentimes what it is one feels one should have done differently. As much as looking back may bring lessons in its wake, it can also be paralyzing. It's a Toss Away the "Could Haves" and "Should Haves" Day—a rather dedicated day for letting go of your past, which holds associated regrets, and moving forward with rewritten purpose and positivity.
What is Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day?
Celebrated annually on the third Saturday of July, Toss Away the “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day is a day for individuals to free themselves from the weight of regret. It encourages everyone to let go of past mistakes and missed opportunities, and instead, focus on the present and future. This special day was created to remind us that dwelling on what could have been or what should have been done differently only hinders our growth and happiness.
Why It's Important to Let Go
- Crippling mental health: The constant replay of mistakes or missed chances does lead to anxiety and depression. Being able to let go of these regrets lets in a much healthier and more positive mindset.
- Personal Growth: Learning to release regrets is such a stimulant of personal growth, it allows one to learn from experiences without being weighed down by them.
- Empowerment: Living in the present, taking hold of our future, and hence being more capable of making decisions that can enrich our lives.
- Relations: Past regrets stress relationships. Moving on can enable us to form stronger bonds with people and develop deeper connections with them.
How to Celebrate Toss Away the "Could Haves" and "Should Haves" Day
- Reflection and Writing: Reflect for a little while on the regrets that you have held. Then, write them down on a paper and acknowledge them one by one. In that writing process is where you realize what can be cleared out.
- Symbolic Gesture: Things that bother you, write them down; next, attach a ritualistic meaning to letting it all go. This could mean tearing up the paper, throwing it in the trash, or burning it (safely, of course). Such a physical act symbolizes your commitment to moving forward.
- Mindfulness Practice: Meditate, practice yoga, and do some deep breathing. These activities will help center your mind and regain focus on the present.
- Establish New Goals: Allow your regrets to be replaced by new goals and aspirations. Take control of things that you can do at the moment to have a better future. Creating achievable goals can give you purpose and direction.
- Positive Self-Statements: Use positive self-statements to further confirm to yourself that you really are letting go of the past. Statements like "I am in control of my present and future" or "I learn and grow from my experiences" can prove quite effective.
Stepping Forward with Clarity of Mind.
Junk the "Could Haves" and "Should Haves" Day doesn't mean that it is all about that day; it's about developing a mindset where the present and the future both hold greater significance than the past. It makes us realize that all of us make mistakes and have missed opportunities that do not define ourselves. What defines us is how we choose to move forward, learn, and grow.
With this day, remember that letting go is a process. While it may take its time, such a small step toward the release of that regret goes on to mean a much healthier, happier, and more valuable life. Take a deep breath and throw away the "could haves" and "should haves." Start living your life with intention and joy.